Chill Out When Planning Your Wedding

You’ve heard of them, the Bridezillas- very nice, happy, beautiful women who turn into some kind of crazed beast when it comes down to the wire on planning their weddings. Friends shake when confronted by them, men hide women and small children from their view, and they seem larger, and scarier than life.

Are you worried about turning into your own version of a Bridezilla? Fear not, there are steps you can take to avoid alienating every single friend you ever had, not to mention your family- and still plan your very own wedding.

First, accept that fact that you will be completely overwhelmed at times. This is a wedding you are planning, and it takes a lot of work to get it all right. It’s also the biggest day of your life, a day of immediate and drastic change that will alter the course of your life, forever. Of course there will be stress, frustration, emotional ups and downs. Embrace them, and don’t try to hold it all together when you really need to just let it all out.

Second, stop trying so hard to make everything perfect. Nothing is ever really perfect, now is it? Why do we feel our weddings have to be obsessively perfect? If you can let go and accept that you can’t control everything, that yes, your bridesmaids are not all the same height, nor do they have the same hair color and nor can they smile identically, you will be able to keep your perspective and possibly still have a few friends left after your big day. Breathe, and laugh when something silly goes wrong. It’s not the end of the world.

Third, remember why you are getting married in the first place. Connect with your fiancé, make sure he knows that he is the reason for all of this, and that he matters more than any of it. Take the time to really show him how happy you are to be marrying him, whatever happens at your wedding. You will be grateful for this perspective long after the wedding has ended.

Fourth, remember who you are. A great way to keep from turning into a Bridezilla is to take your wedding in stride, acknowledge the emotions you feel as you go through this process. The less stress you feel, the more you will be able to connect with the friends and family you have invited, and isn’t that the point of the wedding anyway?

Last, enjoy yourself. Once your wedding has started, it will take on a life of its own. No matter what happens, remember you have found the love of your life, and you are pledging yourselves to one another at your wedding. Don’t let anything interfere with the happiness you feel with your new partner, and you will be just fine.